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Help me! I've fallen off my soapbox ! [Jul. 6th, 2004|09:22 pm]
Leigh picked me up today from work in "old red" (my Volvo wagon w/a NOW WORKING speedometer *yay* ) & we both cringed at hearing this story on NPR...

This story is about a 40 something single woman who decides she wants to have a child .. Maybe this woman is a really lovely woman, and truly loves children - but is it just me to find this so incredibly selfish? Why oh why, would someone willingly have a child w/o a father. Disclaimer: I think there are super duper single Moms out there - I just think well, erff if you are that determined on having a kid, shouldn't you adopt someone who NEEDS a home? (maybe it's my years of animal rescue - I feel the same way about kids - and while my pregnancy ended in miscarriage, if I really was determined I always wanted to adopt) frankly. I think if you can't have kids, or you are a gay married couple... well I see that as God's way of saying you need to help out those homeless kids out there..

The picking & choosing of a mate (go to a sperm bank and pick skin color, educ, blahblah) made me ... nervous. ^^;; erff and crap - she finally picks someone who is close to her life... but hey! her insurance pays for it. Artificial insemination costs like thousands of dollars... Why doesn't she just have sex with her friend?*laugh*

well anyhoo - it was a reminder how while Leigh & I are really an odd pair in so many ways, we both cringed simultaneously at this. So I think it is our from the heart values that kept us together all this time..

however maybe I'm selfish in many ways, and shouldn't be so critical

From: borntohula
2004-07-07 04:37 am (UTC)
I'm almost 100% sure that if I somehow manage to land myself a secure life, finanially and emotionally, I'm definitely adopting. But oh, our poor future adopted kids with their tofu scrambles and fake meat sandwiches... LOL
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[User Picture]From: vkacademy
2004-07-07 05:37 am (UTC)
Yes, I get really annoyed at those stories about the "courageous" women out there who pine away for a child for years and then through the miracle of science, manage to conceive. You know, if you really want a baby, you'd adopt. Most of those people don't Want. A. Baby. They want to perpetuate their DNA. Pretty selfish and egotistical, I think.

I always wanted to adopt a Chinese baby girl. But now I know that I just don't enjoy being around kids for more than a few hours. I don't really want them and am glad I realize that.
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[User Picture]From: ruiroentgen
2004-07-07 04:40 pm (UTC)


since I don't know about the topic enough to make a comment, I'll just say that I totally agree with the adoption thing, I mean, I don't know any family who have adopted (or as far as I know), but, I don't think there will be a problem with it, since there is love between the parents and the child.
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From: mrhydeisme
2004-07-07 05:51 pm (UTC)
It's funny how man early adults/ teens say they "plan on adopting" once they get older...

what's with all the "all talk but no action"?
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