I took Buddy to Heartland yesterday to visit with staff and residents. We hadn't been there since Elsie passed, but he sure was eager to go.
After visiting I went to turn towards the main entrance and Buddy refused to go along. He wouldn't budge.. then he started to pull me in the opposite direction...He pulled me towards Elsie's old room.. I was surprised and touched.
my aunt Elsie has been receiving hospice level care since February she's been on a very slow decline and the hospice care is designed to make her as comfortable as possible . I have been preoccupied with my mothers own hospitalization journey from December to February I was trying to arrange hospice care for Elsie while visiting my mother in the hospital every day I felt badly about not seeing Elsie every day like I had with my mother was in the same facility - I was glad to visit her with Buddy but often felt as an inadequate source of company.
I received a call from the hospice nurse last week saying Elsie had been in further decline it and they might reevaluate her use of a feeding tube -the tube was inserted by her sons request against her wishes, at the time I wasn't aware I really had executive authority over her medical decisions. The feeding tube was removed over the weekend and when I saw her on Monday she was not talking or responding much to me but she let buddy lick her -She also ate the chocolate candy I gave her. I received a call from the nurse this morning encouraging me to visit Elsie since her condition had greatly worsened since Monday Leigh and I want to see her with buddy and it was a bit frightening. Elsie's mouth was gaping open and she was staring up at the ceiling breathing with gurgling noises so it seems like she's at the end of her journey. I hugged the nurse who had called me and she was teary-eyed and she said to me "she was my baby for four years" I will always appreciate her kindness to her
Gigi had a sudden decline- she started to have trouble with balance, getting up and seemed to have diminished muscle strength- took her to the vet and we were hoping it was an ear infection. We tried treating her with cannabis crackers- but there were days she couldn't move at all. Today she was crying because she couldn't get up & couldn't keep her head upright to eat.
I do think she enjoyed the pizza I gave her this morning
Christmas Day was nice - On Sundays we take my parents out to eat & since it was Xmas me & my sister in law Carole brought food over - & I had some Greek bread I made in the freezer.
I felt bad that Christina ( who lives with my folks) wasn't up to joining us She said she felt stuffy & achy -but then later I realized she was crying on & off all day. It's a difficult time of year for many -she lost her mother 12 years ago & her father hasn't been much of a support I hope she knows how much my family values her - I would be lost without her
The gal who lives with & takes care of my folks, Christina (her daughter lives with them too) is off for a well deserved week away & we are using a home care aide service. So far it's worked out well. They come 3XDay...I was at my folks house yesterday to meet the caregiver . She kindly woke my Mom & made her breakfast. My Mom looked out the window & asked whose car was in the driveway, which was the caregiver's car. She always wants to know whose car is in the driveway or if my car is working. I asked the aide if she had much experience in working with dementia patients & how she thought my Mom was. She has a lot of experience with them & thought my Mom was in early stages, we've been giving her cannabis peanut butter since June of 2014. On Saturday, friends of my brother drove 5 hours from Illinois to get some cannabis crackers to try with their Mother who has a lot in common with my Mom - Greek, same age, also had a stroke - but her condition is more severe. Hopefully this will help.
My Dad really likes the caregivers so far - which is great. I'm sure my Dad enjoys having different people around to talk with.
I made an instagram collage of my Dad with my Corgi Buddy, his sketch & final painting...